Traditional Wicca in Toronto
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The subject of LGBTQA🏳️‍🌈 people in Wicca has been written about from opposing perspectives. Some don’t see the fit for gay people since they perceive Wicca to be intensely polar in its view of the universe. On the other hand, some recognize we all have mothers, sisters and potentially daughters. So there are many ways for, for instance, a gay man to relate to the Goddess. The converse is true for a lesbian woman who can relate to the Horned One as father, brother and son.

Our tradition believes Wicca is for “anyone with a consciousness” and that loves and desires to serve the old gods. There are some archaic laws in Wicca about only opposite sexes teaching each other. This isn’t considered anymore as it is unrealistic in today’s time. As well there is a clear expectation that teachers not abuse power by getting involved with students.

The issue of polarity doesn’t apply to same-sex couples because the partners are the same. The Ancient Harmony is about Union. Just as Love is Love, union is union for all sexualities. What matters in Wicca is love, compassion for others, passion and the ability to direct that energy in certain ways. A 🏳️‍🌈 person worships the gods the same way heterosexual people do save it’s the same-sex deity that is seen as their lover. The opposite sex deity is their parent, sibling and child.

There are useful examples for teaching for the Wicca inherent in 🏳️‍🌈 examples. For instance, same-sex relationships are an example of having to deal with oneself and oneself as the deity. Part of first degree is learning to relate to everything as the God and the Goddess, male female. Second degree is about becoming more like the god or goddess. What can be said about 3rd degree is that the Ancient Harmony become the focus.

We do welcome all people who honestly love and trust in the old gods and who seek to know in order to serve. “No other law but love I know, by naught but love may I be known.” -Book of Shadows
She only knows LOVE!
To quote 🏳️‍🌈 people, “ Love is Love. “

It is true that a small amount of the language used in the past was, by today’s standards, heteronormative, sexist and may seem to say that polarity in ones sexuality is necessary for the flow of magic in the circle to work. What is true is that there are rarely equal numbers of each of all the sexes present in a circle so male-female is rarely possible. What is important to know is that sexual energy helps fuel the magic.

Aphrodite Urania Coven feels that the words we use must reflect the meaning in all its myriad forms. We provide additional notes with more 🏳️‍🌈 examples and explanations related to how a certain statement applies to, for instance same-sex or asexual people. These additional notes are shared with all coveners so no one need disclose and all feel included, welcome and equally important. We continue to use inclusive language in our rituals and avoid sexist and heteronormative statements.

The ultimate nature of the universe is non-dual and so is the God and the Goddess. – “one consciousness vast and ineffable” – Book of Shadows. They arise together. Whether divine twins or divine couple.

Our tradition is mystical, devotional, magical and philosophical leading to union with the god/dess. Aphrodite Urania endeavours to be welcoming and affirming to everyone.


For Terms used in this paper:

LGBT+, LGBTQA🏳️‍🌈 These acronyms refer to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, and Asexual or Ally. …
(Terms that may be coming into usage rather than the alphabet soup:
GSM gender and sexual minorities or DSG diverse sexualities and genders

Hetero-normative noun : the assumption, in individuals and/or in institutions, that everyone is heterosexual. When no mention or examples are given for DSG this leads to invisibility and stigmatizing of other sexualities: e.g. when learning a woman is married, asking her what her husband’s name is. Heteronormativity leads people to make incorrect assumptions and makes those ignored feel consistently of less value.

For additional information on terms used by people interested in equal rights for 🏳️‍🌈 people, see: